Nothing wears me out faster than someone who constantly talks about a problem and then finds flaws with every option presented to fix said problem. I have no patience for this- at all. So often, we can find ourselves doing this to our spouse. We voice a problem and then shoot down every idea or solution presented by the other side.
Eventually this evolves into an adversarial type of relationship and this will spell doom for a marriage. Perhaps the couple does stay together until death do us part, but there is a lot more to a healthy marriage than just living under the same roof.
If we are to live together in peace- we must choose peace.
We must choose to be problem solvers.
Solving problems brings peace.
Instead of looking at your husband as someone to be conquered, bested, and put in his place- you need to look at him as your ally in this game of life. Life brings many battles and many challenges- we need an ally. This doesn’t happen over-night, but if you will choose to see your spouse as your ally and choose the path of peace instead of quarreling and bickering- your home will be a much happier place.
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they should be called the sons of God.
Original Word: εἰρηνοποιός, όν
Part of Speech: Adjective
Phonetic Spelling: (i-ray-nop-oy-os’)
Short Definition: pacific, loving peace, a peace-maker
Definition: pacific, loving peace, a peace-maker.
So, when a problem presents itself- don’t choose sides. Choose to work with your spouse and find a solution that is good for all involved. Then you will be peace makers and others looking on will know there is a God when they see peace reigning in your home.