Who’s your biggest fan?
Do you know who mine is? My husband.
He is my biggest fan and relentless supporter and I am his.
For me, being his biggest fan is easy. Tony is Mr. Steady, he rarely finds himself in a bad mood and his continual optimism is inspiring.
Me? I am a hot mess most of the time. And yet, he focusses on my strengths and praises me. He is convinced there is not a better writer, mother, wife on the planet.
This means the WORLD to me. I struggled this past weekend. I had a writing deadline (which I met) and this had me in a funk. Not because I was behind and there was too much pressure. I thrive under pressure, I was struggling because of the onslaught of self-doubt that comes every time I meet a goal and whenever my work is about to be published. I get sideways and have a hard time picking up a pen or typing a sentence. This sort of behavior in its various forms has been present my whole adult life.
But, does my husband roll his eyes or tell me to get over it?
No, he tells me how brilliant I am. He focuses on my strengths and loves me through it. He accepts me the way I am and pushes me to believe in myself and to keep pursuing my goals and dreams.
I pray to God, that I am the same for him.
This world is nasty and mean, we have an enemy whose ONLY purpose and goal is to steal, kill, and destroy. Our home should be the safe harbor in the storm. Everyone in your home should feel safe, loved, and encouraged.
So, be your spouse’s biggest fan and relentless supporter.
If you are sitting there thinking that there is nothing to praise or support- you aren’t looking hard enough.
If you both go at each other like you are each other’s worst enemy- go get help. You are destroying your marriage and your kids. Grow up, stop seeking the drama and get help with breaking the dysfunctional cycle.
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.Ephesians 4:29
20 From the fruit of their mouth a person’s stomach is filled; with the harvest of their lips they are satisfied. 21 The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.Proverbs 18:20-21
The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.Proverbs 12:18-19
We have the power to build a happy marriage, well-adjusted kids, and a happily ever after and that power is in the words we use.
We have the power to wreck our marriage, destroy our kids, and trash our happily ever after and that power is in the words we use.
Watch your mouth!